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feeling increasingly alone




so i've been gone from here for the last like oh 6-8 months because of work and just meh but i've noticed that i'm just alone, yes i have friends and i do hang out with them from time to time but after that i feel more alone then before, all i do is work and try to find a 2nd job and just be alone... i really have no idea were i'm going with this but just yeah...



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Loneliness is an unavoidable feeling at times. Sometimes you just feel distanced from others, and at other times it feels like everyone is somehow alien to you, and that you just can't bridge that gap of a disconnect between you and them. It can happen when you lose touch, or maybe you've just had a pretty rough time of it for a while.. Whatever the case, feeling lonely is normal. It's not something that you should feel as though you've somehow done something wrong for feeling that way, nor is it always anyone's fault that it happens.

The best solution, at the end of the day, though? Just.. try. It's tough to come back to people after being alone for a while, but it's like anything else, really: something to work on, and towards. Eventually it gets easier, bit by bit. It's tough, but most things of that sort usually are. I'm sure you'll manage, though. Just hang in there, eh?

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true all good points i mean i'm normally a really talkative person but the whole "alien" thing is right because its like outside of work i don't do anything at all actually. not that i don't try to chill with my friends when i get a chance. but i'm 25 in like 2 months and its like i've actually done nothing with my life, granted i'm a high school grad and a Job Corps grad (trade school) so i have done things with my life (oh and i'm also about 2/8th done with recording my first album.) but its like i'm just wasting my life trying to find something worth while.

i mean i go as far as when i have the spare money i give it to very close friend of 5 years because she is doing alot more with her life then i am (shes in college etc) and want to see her reach her goals and make them that much more attainable. (partly because i love her and the other is to see her succeed).

again i have no idea were i'm going with this but yeah just ranting i guess.

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Nah, the feeling's not one I'm unfamiliar with. I'm 28, myself, and while I'm working my way towards getting my Master's Degree little by little, there is the sense of 'what do I have to show for it?'. I work on my writing, little by little, especially since this spring semester renewed my sense of purpose in that front, but even now there's that inescapable feeling of questioning oneself.

Really, I can't tell you how to beat a feeling like that, other than to just focus yourself on what you're doing now, and taking life one step at a time. If you worry too much about the future, you end up losing sight of the now, and instead just make yourself feel worse and worse in a self-defeating manner. There's nothing to be gained from that other than more woes and worries about your future, and an even more diminished sense of self-worth.

'Try to stay positive' is a cliché, perhaps, but it's one that holds some merit and truth to it. Don't let fretting over an unwritten and uncertain future keep you from trying to be happy in the now; especially when you being happy is the key to future success in the first place.

That's about all I can offer ya.

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